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I don't want ADHD to steal yours.
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I don't know if you've ever had this thought before, but I know I have...
Sometimes I look around at other people and I genuinely feel happy for them. I see someone build a business, get in great shape, write a book, be really present with their kids, or finally go after something they've been talking about forever, and I think, "That's awesome."
But then there's this tiny part of me that's like...
"Why does that feel so much harder for me?"
I mean... it's not like I wake up every morning with no clue what I should be doing. If anything, I usually know too many things I should be doing. The hard part has always been getting myself to consistently follow through on them.
For years I thought that meant I just wasn't disciplined enough. Or maybe I hadn't found the right planner yet. Or maybe I needed a different productivity system. I kept thinking if I could just find the thing that finally made me consistent, everything else would fall into place.
Lately though... I've been realizing I don't think consistency was ever really what I was chasing.
I think what I was really chasing was the feeling that ADHD wasn't deciding how much of my life I actually got to experience.
Because when I really think about it... I wasn't grieving my to-do list.
I was grieving the version of my life that I knew I was capable of living.
And I have a feeling I'm not the only one.
That's why I'm building this.
Have you ever felt like you're grieving a life you're still alive to live?
I know... that's kind of a heavy question.
I remember writing those words down for the first time and thinking, "That feels a little dramatic."
But the more I've sat with it... and the more conversations I've had with other adults with ADHD... the more I think that's exactly what so many of us are feeling.
Because it isn't that we don't believe we're capable.
That's almost what makes it harder.
We do believe we're capable.
We've all had those days where everything just clicks. We follow through. We're present. We feel focused. We think clearly. We leave the day feeling proud of ourselves.
And then somehow... we can't seem to recreate it consistently.
That's such a confusing way to live.
It's like catching glimpses of the person you know you can be... but never feeling like you can fully become them.
I don't think most people with ADHD are grieving their to-do list.
I think they're grieving the life they know they're capable of living.
If you've ever felt that way...
What if the problem isn't that you've been aiming too high?
What if you've just been trying to build your life in a way that doesn't work for your brain?
That realization has completely changed the way I think about what I'm building.
So why am I building this?
For the longest time, I thought what I needed was accountability.
Not because I understood why it worked. I didn't.
I just had this theory that if more people knew I was trying to do something, I'd have a better chance of actually doing it.
So a little over 100 days ago, I decided to test it.
I made a public commitment on Instagram that I was going to post every single day for 60 days.
At the time, I had fewer than 100 posts on my account... total. I'd had the account for over two years and I'd only grown it to about 700 followers because I'd never been able to stay consistent.
My thinking was pretty simple...
"Let's see if this actually works."
And it did.
That part wasn't surprising.
The part that surprised me was what happened after Day 60.
Nobody was expecting me to keep posting anymore.
Nobody would've been upset if I stopped.
But I didn't stop.
I just... kept going.
And that's when I started realizing maybe I'd been looking at accountability all wrong.
It wasn't just helping me post consistently.
It was helping me collect evidence.
Evidence that I could actually follow through.
Evidence that maybe I wasn't the person I'd spent years believing I was.
And once I started trusting myself a little more... something really interesting happened.
Posting every day stopped feeling like something I had to convince myself to do.
It just became part of who I was.
That's when I started asking a different question...
Instead of:
"How do I become more disciplined?"
I started wondering...
"What if discipline isn't actually the problem?"
"What if I've just been trying to build my life in a way that doesn't work for my brain?"
That question has completely changed what I've been experimenting with over the last year.
Morning workouts, body doubling, public commitments, walking at night, nutrition, SLEEP (something I've always struggled with).
None of those experiments were really about productivity.
They were all trying to answer one question:
How do I stop letting ADHD decide how much of my life I actually get to experience?
So... what am I building?
The more I've been thinking about all of this, the more I've realized I don't think people with ADHD need another course.
We don't need another planner.
We don't need another productivity hack or another YouTube video explaining executive function.
If information was enough, I think most of us would've figured this out by now.
I think what we're missing is an environment where we actually have a better chance of following through.
Think about it...
How many times have you learned something that made total sense... and then a week later found yourself right back in the same patterns?
I know I have.
That's why I don't want to build another course where you watch videos by yourself and hope this is the one that finally changes your life.
I want to build something that feels more like having a personal trainer than buying another workout program.
You don't hire a trainer because you don't know how to do a squat.
You hire one because you know you'll show up differently when someone is in your corner.
I think people with ADHD deserve that too.
Here's what I'm creating.
Right now, the vision looks something like this:
- → Weekly live coaching where we don't just talk about change, we actually work through it together.
- → Body doubling sessions because sometimes the hardest part is simply getting started.
- → Daily accountability with me AND a community of people who understand what this feels like without you having to explain yourself or feel judged.
- → Small experiments you can try in your own life instead of trying to overhaul everything at once.
- → A place to celebrate the little wins that eventually become evidence that maybe you were never as incapable as you thought.
I know this will evolve because I'm still learning too.
But I finally feel like I'm asking the right questions.
And I want to build this with the people it's actually for.
Here's what I believe.
I don't think people change because someone gives them better advice.
I think people change because they start having different experiences.
Every time you follow through on something you said you were going to do, you collect a little more evidence.
Evidence that you can trust yourself.
Evidence that you are capable.
Evidence that maybe ADHD isn't so bad after all.
And over time, those little pieces of evidence start changing the way you see yourself.
That's what I care about.
I want you to wake up a year from now and realize...
You are ABSOLUTELY capable of living the life you wish you were living now.
Because there is something amazing inside you that wants to come out, and it could literally change other people's lives if you let it.
This isn't finished yet.
I'm still building it, and I think that's one of the reasons it'll end up being better.
I don't want to disappear for six months, build a program in isolation, and then hope people like it.
I'd rather build it with the people it's actually for.
Over the last year I've been running experiments on myself to figure out what actually helps me stop letting ADHD get in the way of living my life.
Every time I learn something, I share it.
That's exactly how I want this program to evolve too.
So if you join the waitlist, you're not signing up for a perfectly polished course.
You're joining me while I build what I hope becomes the thing so many of us wish had existed years ago.
If this sounds like the kind of thing you've been wishing existed...
I'd love for you to come build it with me.
You'll get updates as the program takes shape, early access when doors open, founding member pricing, and a front row seat as we figure this out together.
Because I really believe this...
ADHD doesn't have to decide how much of your life you get to experience. And I don't want it to steal yours.